Valentine! It’s so much more than just a saint’s
name, isn’t it? Who remembers the saint’s martyrdom; everyone is busy pleasing
their own valentine (Except me, I keep busy pleasing myself). There’s so much
to do, especially for us girls (count me out). We spend months making gifts,
thinking of different ways to surprise our beloved, buying heart-shaped
candies, buying broken heart lockets, making videos (love videos, of course)
and the list goes on. Doing everything
without even thinking what would our halves (why better?) do with it? Flaunt it
before their friends like we do or dump it in their dump yard (read, room) like
they do. Girls need to rack their brain harder when it comes to gifts. For
guys, it’s easier; get a bouquet, a few chocolates and go out for a perfect
romantic dinner. But girls, what do they do? Flowers? So girly! Chocolates? A
packet of Marlboro and a bottle of Budweiser would have been better. Something
handmade? Cards? How romantic! (Really?) I was going through a popular author’s
blog where he declared (yes, I take it as a declaration), Handmade or bought from the market, they are as useless as useless can
get. See, I’m not the only one thinking that way. Anyway, these are the
pangs of being in a relationship and should be left to the mushy, blinded in
love couples.
Valentine’s Day without a saint (saint? who am I
kidding?) is even more fun, it’s beyond ecstasy (Ya, you can call me insane).
Don’t make faces or scream at the screen, you’ve a valentine so how would you
know? Valentine’s Day is just another date in the calendar for us (singles) but
so much love in the air is suffocating. We, singles, roam around with glum
faces and buying ourselves roses. (A friend got me one. A white rose. The
friend is a she. She, too, is committed.) Wait a second! We aren’t sad because
we don’t have someone. We’re sad for our committed friends; they don’t know
what they’re missing. And well, when it comes to having someone, just one?
We’ve so many ones. Our crush, our friend’s crush, one we admire, few on Facebook and the list doesn’t end. How could I miss out! Someone else’s
boyfriend/girlfriend. Yes, there’s at least one guy or girl who has this really
handsome/beautiful valentine. And you gossip (I know guys gossip too) among your
friends, “Damn! How did he/she even get him/her?” See, we have so many people
to ogle at.
And then as
the night dawns, our eyes sparkle to see the glasses and the shots- with or
without fire, full. The whiff of smoke wipes away all the worries and anxiety. A canopy of smoke, loud music and company of a few lucky
ones like us. Could the Valentine’s Day celebration get any better? Even if you
say a yes, I wouldn’t agree.
P.P.S: Happy Reading :)
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He he..nice one! By the way, it does make me curious though. There is a difference between being single by choice and being single because you're not able to attract a person towards yourself. I guess single attractive women are mostly single by choice. It is quite easy to get a guy hooked to oneself if one is a gal with the hots.:-P So I am sure the reality perceived by these sort of women is a lot different from the ones who are simply not being able to attract anyone decent towards themselves. I think somewhere it boils down to a matter of self-esteem. People tend to think that there is something wrong with themselves, if they go around being lonely and alone. Shattered self-esteem, a desperate desire to be rescued from loneliness- blah blah- you know the drill. I would like to know your views about this. Since I am planning to write a novel (hell!call me crazy!:-D) on a similar theme. I would like to hear some fresh opinions on this issue.
ReplyDeleteHey Rahul! Thank you for reading. :)
ReplyDeleteI tend to differ when you say that single attractive women are single by choice. See, when you know you're attractive you tend to dislike every guy(mostly) who approaches you. And the guys you fall for, aren't really interested because they're either taken or want someone even better. It's a vicious cycle of expectations and these women remain single. A slight agreement on this point would be that few women are single to avoid monotony in their lives. :P (I'm a staunch believer of what I just said. Boyfriend = Monotony)
I'm single and I don't really feel lonely. I believe no one in this world is a loner. Some people like thinking that way. Being alone, brings you closer to yourself. Moreover, love relationship is not the only relationship in this world.
Good luck with your novel. :)
Thanks for taking the time out to reply. :-) It feels nice to receive information and perspective which makes one rethink and re-evaluate certain notions he or she has.
ReplyDeleteAnytime, Rahul! Do let me know when you're done with the novel. :-)
ReplyDeleteI need a small clarification though. You said
ReplyDelete//See, when you know you're attractive you tend to dislike every guy(mostly) who approaches you.
Now on an intuitive level, I can figure out that guys hit on attractive women so often that it becomes a pain in the neck after a while.
What would be of help here is if you can tell me what kind of thoughts go through a woman's mind when this happens. You sure were able to throw in a new nugget of insight earlier. So I'm hoping if I'll get second time lucky. :-)
I hope I'm not bothering you too much with my questions. It's ok if you don't feel like replying. I'll understand. :-)
That's not what I exactly meant. What I mean is when you know you're attractive, you don't easily say yes to any Tom, Dick or Harry! You expect of finding some Tom Cruise or Ranbir Kapoor as such your head is held high. You look down upon every random mediocre guy. They become such pain in the ass. You feel like smashing their head with the first thing you find and ask, "What part of 'I'm not interested' did you not get?" Poor girls,they keep expecting and Tom goes on a voyage and Cruise doesn't arrive. Forever Single! :P
ReplyDeleteEmm..and so all this craving for Cruise Control leads to the biological clock relentlessly counting down in single-hood, is it? :-)
ReplyDeleteOk, regarding your comment, I don't quite see why you said,'That's not what I exactly meant'. 'Coz what you wrote in this comment was exactly what I had guessed. :-P
Anyway, thanks for the inputs. :-) Much appreciated.